(I started writing this a day and a half ago and never finished because, you know, parenting. Pretend it’s August 15th!)
30. THIR-ty. thir-TY!! 1988!
No matter where I place the emphasis in the word it doesn’t change the fact that I’m 3 decades old.
I woke up today to the sound of my kids (kids! Plural! I’m like an adult or something!). So my oldest likes to wake up at the butt crack of dawn and will help finagle my youngest out of her crib. And usually they play and let me sleep in for a little while (and by sleep in I mean laying here listening to them play for an extra ten minutes while I struggle with my inability to succumb to the fact I need to wake up) but not today! They giggled their way into my bed and my youngest slammed her body right onto my gut, followed by the biggest hug. My oldest slithered her way under the cover and into the nook of my arm and we tickled, and we cuddled, and we laughed (so hard that my oldest farted), and I woke up happy.
I know too many people who were not able to wake up on their 30th birthday and experience what I got to…because they never made it to 30. So here is my list of things I’ve learned/things you should start doing:
- Life is short. Stop wasting it on things and people that/who don’t matter.
- Drink more water. If you think you’re drinking enough, drink more.
- Don’t tell your secrets to your kids. They’ll tell any and everyone who will listen.
- Befriend the “weirdo” at work. I promise you’ll learn something amazing about them and maybe something about yourself.
- You don’t have to pay full price for EVERYTHING. There are huge discounts out there if you sign up for newsletters and look at other resources!
- If you want to do something for yourself, do it. Just do it.
- Don’t settle. Please don’t settle.
- …but also don’t have unrealistic expectations
- Read! Read a good book or a bad one! Just read. Your brain will thank you for it.
- Learn a new skill, or a hobby. If you don’t like it, then find a new one! You now know how to do something you didn’t know before.
- Tell everyone you love, that you love them. Make sure they know. Don’t let people who are important to you wonder where they stand in your life.
- Try to find the good in all things. There is always a silver lining.
- Bring wipes everywhere. (Especially if you have kids)
- Make someones life a little easier. Pay for someone’s coffee behind you in line, babysit for a much needed couple, invite someone over and make them dinner.
- Smile more often.
- Pamper yourself from time to time.
- Its okay to sit and do nothing once in a while. Life doesn’t always have to be busy!
- Not all people speak your “love language”. Try not to force someone to be like you or make them feel like they’re loving wrong.
- No matter how nice you are, there will always be someone who will judge you. Try not to let it bother you.
- Be more organized. I suck at this, like really bad. But I am trying.
- Your best friend may become a stranger. *shrugs*
- Making friends as an adult sucks. A mom adult, at that.
- Rushing causes more stress. Why are we rushing our kids out the door? Slow down. Time goes by way too fast without us having to make it faster.
- Support your friends and family. Making them feel like what they do matters really does mean a lot.
- Do something that scares you. The adrenaline that will follow will be exhilarating (Doesn’t have to be skydiving, leaving a job to follow a different dream is one example).
- If you have kids, love on them any chance you get. They get annoying, yes. But the time you have with them while they are little is minimal and it flies.
- Print off your photos. I have 25k photos on my phone (I’m not even exaggerating). I print them off from time to time. Even if they just go in a box later on. Having something physical to look at is a fad that has almost been thrown out.
- Let your husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/family love you. Take their compliments. Leave your door open to it. You are worth it.
- Let go of grudges
- Love yourself. Seriously. No one can fully love you right, without you loving yourself in some way, first.
This list wasn’t as easy as I thought it’d be and partly thought up on a whim. However, I hope you enjoyed it.
Welcome to my thirties!!! Where I’m sure I will still not know what I’m doing.